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Is Your Teen in Trouble? Your Guide to Their Code Words

This generation of teens communicates differently from any others as smartphone technology has outpaced the normal evolution of day-and-age vernacular. As a result, adolescents use abbreviations and emojis to convey their thoughts while parents and society scramble to catch up.

What Are They Saying? Your Guide to Teen Slang

However, within these bite-size “codes” could be volumes of meaning, some delineating at risk behavior, some foreboding suicide.  These codes many times come from the letters that correspond to the key pad on a phone.  So here’s a guide to some of the unfamiliar terminology the young ‘uns are using:

 

Sex/Love

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  • NIFOC – nude in front of computer
  • CU46 – see you for sex
  • 8 – “ate” used in discussions on oral sex
  • 831 – I love you – “eight letters, three words, one you/meaning”
  • 143 – I love you (denotes letters on keypads, or #’s of letters in each word (love has 4 letters)
  • 2N8, 2NTE – tonight
  • 4AO – four adults only
  • 2B@ – to be at
  • 4EAE – for ever and ever
  • 53X – sex
  • 775 – kiss me
  • ?^ – hook up?
  • BAE – before anyone else
  • IWSN – I want sex now
  • ITX – intense text sex
  • NP4NP – naked pic for naked pic
  • 1174 – strip club

 

Unhappy/Angry

 

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  • < 3 – broken heart or heart
  • 182 – I hate you (1 stands for “I”, 8 stands for “hate”, 2 stands for “you”)
  • 2G2BT – Too good to be true
  • 2M2H – Too much to handle
  • Blarg, Blargh – similar to “darn” but deeper
  • Butthurt – receiving a personal insult
  • Salty – being bitter about something or someone
  • Watered – feeling sad, hurt
  • Wrecked – messed up
  • 4FS – For F***’s Sake
  • Poof – disappearing
  • ::poof:: – I’m gone
  • Ghost – disappear
  • 555555 – sobbing, crying one’s eyes out
  • ADIH – another day in Hell
  • KMN – kill me now
  • VSF – very sad face
  • KMS – kill myself
  • KYS – kill yourself
  • 187 – homicide

 

Drugs/Risky Behavior (to be revisited more in depth)

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  • 420 – marijuana
  • 420 – let’s get high
  • A/S/L/P – age/sex/location/picture
  • A3 – anytime, anyplace, anywhere
  • LMIRL – lets meet in real life
  • WYRN – what is your real name?
  • Chrismas tree – marijuana
  • Catnip – marijuana
  • Gold – drugs
  • Gummy Bears – drugs
  • Blues/Bananas – narcotics
  • Bars – benzodiazepines
  • Smarties/Skittles – Adderall/Ritalin
  • Ski Equipment/Yayo– cocaine
  • Cola – cocaine
  • Candy/Chocolate Chips/Sweets/Smarties/E – ecstasy
  • Crystal Skull/Wizard – synthetic marijuana
  • Hazel – heroin
  • Gat – gun/firearm
  • Lit – getting high/drunk
  • Smash(ed) – getting drunk, stoned, or having sex

 

Parents nearby

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  • 9 – parent is watching
  • 99 – parent is not watching anymore
  • P911 – parent alert (parent 911)
  • PAL – parents are listening
  • PAW – parents are watching
  • POS – parents over shoulder
  • AITR – adult in the room
  • CD9 – code 9 – parents in the room
  • KPC – keep parents clueless
  • RU/18 – are you over 18

 

And the above is just a small sample of some of the terms used these days.  This list continues to grow by the day so parents need to always be aware.  Kids want to KPC and avoid POS so be ready for the next group of codes being created as we speak……

 

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

 

Posted in Education, Health, Millennials, news

Finals Week: Your Survival Guide

Millions of high school, college and graduate students are entering the most stressful time of the semester: Final’s Week.  Here’s your guide to getting through it:

Map out your strategy

Your time is divisible so grab a calculator and aliquot into equal periods.  Make sure you have extra sessions included for breaks and catch up sessions.  Or you can use a calendar that is already compartmentalized on which to create your timetable.

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Clean your desk!

A nice clean, crisp desk with plenty of pens and highlighters helps energize one more than cluttered paper.  Moreover have a second work space you can go to when you get sick of working at your desk.

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Prioritize

Now this is easier said than done. Some will put their hardest classes on their study calendar first, some the easiest.  There are pros and cons to both. What I suggest is alternating difficult and easy subjects.  You need the start of your day and initial power hours knocking out the difficult material, but then the easier classes will boost your confidence and sometimes energy.  So one option could be:

  • Study block 1:  Tough subject
  • Study block 2:  Easy subject
  • Study block 3:  Medium subject
  • Hour 4:  Review
  • With breaks, of course, in between.

 

Take real breaks!

You should design two types of breaks: Short and Long.

Your short break should be no shorter than 10 minutes.  During the break you must do the following:

  • Get up and stretch
  • Drink water
  • Eat a small snack
  • Go to the bathroom
  • Listen to some music, dance, phone a friend

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Your long break should be no shorter than 45 minutes.  During these breaks you can:

  • Eat a regular meal, if due, and drink plenty of fluids
  • Take a small nap
  • Take a shower – helps refresh and energize
  • Check social media – stick to your time limit though!
  • Watch a 30 minute episode of your favorite sitcom
  • Exercise such as going for a run

 

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Identify signs of burnout

If you’re “going through the motions” of studying and feel “burnt” you won’t be absorbing the material and subsequently you’ll be wasting precious hours.  You must identify burnout by looking for the following:

  • Apathy
  • Exhaustion
  • Poor sleep when you get done in the evening
  • Negative attitude towards school and others
  • Procrastinating your next study block
  • Being irritated
  • Feeling empty
  • Low energy
  • Thinking about quitting

 

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How to avoid burnout

When studying for finals it’s difficult to avoid the boredom and stress, but the following may help:

  • Study with friends
  • Mix up your study sessions with videos and flash cards if reading gets overwhelming
  • Watch a short funny video to get you laughing
  • Take regular breaks
  • Make sure you’re eating and sleeping well

 

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Finals week is never supposed to be easy so accept it and own it!  But put your health first since you can always make up a test……

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

Posted in Education, Employment, Health, news

Woman Arrested After Passing Gas and Then Pulling Knife on Offended Bystander

Embarrassment many time leads to violence.

This week a woman who was embarrassed by a remark after she passed gas pulled a knife, threatening to “gut” him.

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37-year-old Shanetta Wilson was standing in line at the Dollar General Store in Broward County, Florida, when she let loose some loud gas.  When a man confronted her on how loud it was, she allegedly pulled a knife out of her purse, threatened she would “gut” him and appeared to lunge.  She was arrested with a charge of aggravated assault with a deadly weapon (the knife, not the fart).

 

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Does embarrassment lead to violence?

One of the most undercited reasons for violence is embarrassment.  Violence that ensues after one is fired, rejected, ousted or expelled appears to occur fairly often.

Last year in the same county, 17 people were killed at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School by Nicholas Cruz, who was previously expelled by the school.

Last month a man rejected by his fiancée killed her and two others at a Chicago hospital.

In August a 14 year-old Oklahoma teen stabbed a 16 year-old 11 times after she rejected his request for a relationship.

Now, most likely many of these soon-to-be-violent individuals are rejected due to their odd behaviors.  However, the time surrounding the “embarrassment” may be the most dangerous.

Hence society’s approach to stopping domestic and workplace violence may need to tap in on key times that surround one’s expulsion.

 

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

She is also a Board Certified Family Physician and Assistant Professor at Touro University Nevada

Posted in Education, Health, news

Teachers Need to Evolve to Avoid “Losing” Their Students

Recently in education, more teachers admit to struggling to engage and connect with this generation of students.  If they fail to engage, they can’t “capture” them to educate their minds.  If the students don’t feel educated, they won’t be enlisted to self-study, or come back for more.

The Three E’s in Communication: Engage, Educate and Enlist

 

And maybe this has always been an issue for our professors, but if one doesn’t understand their audience, they risk having a failed performance.

 

Millennials (Generation Y) and Generation Z’s Expect Communication

Those born between 1981 and 1995 comprise the “Millennials” and those born after 1995 are called “Generation Z.”  Those born before 1980 are known as Generation X, and those born before 1960 are considered “Baby Boomers.”

The Generation Y’s and Z’s differ greatly from their older counterparts.

 

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Communication is huge in the newer generations with insult taken if the communications aren’t received and responses aren’t given.  Whereas in my age group (Generation X) we could pretend we weren’t by a phone or hadn’t listened to our message machine yet, Y’s and Z’s are expected to have received the text even if they don’t have time to read it.

Thus, if a teacher doesn’t listen to their concerns or respond to their emails, they will “lose” them.

Younger Students WANT to Stand Out

When I went to school, the best strategy was to “lay low” and not demonstrate your ignorance, unless of course you could be the one privileged student to earn “teacher’s pet.”  Our odds were better at success if we stayed within the herd.

The younger generations, however, aren’t of the “herd” mentality and want to stand out.  They understand that competition is fierce and unless they make themselves known, or be seen as unique, they will be skipped over in a heartbeat.

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Therefore, teachers and professors shouldn’t with this generation of students “teach to the flock”, but rather have lessons and activities that allow each to own it and demonstrate their skills.

They may want to connect with you as a mentor

Older professors may be reluctant to have open-door policies or one-on-one conversations with their students. However, what we must realize is many of these students are lonely.  They are surrounded by social media “peeps” all day long that they may lack meaningful interactions and strong relationships.  “Brotherhood” and “Sisterhood” are terms we don’t hear nowadays…. again, they aren’t the “herd” generation.  So be open to them wanting to discuss educational or meaningful topics with you that they can’t do with their “friends.”

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The student crunched for time doesn’t want your opinion, they want facts

This generation is bombarded by opinion 24/7 on their phone and social media news feeds.  Hence if they have one hour with you, they need to be convinced that what you’re teaching isn’t another “opinion.”  If there is more than one way to skin a cat, you can convey that, but they will need to be convinced that you aren’t just dishing your own preferences, unless of course they revere you and feel your opinion is the one that matters.

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We need to earn their respect

In the olden days, being a teacher or professor was one of the  most revered professions because everyone in society needed us at some point in their schooling.  Now, however, being a professor may not come with all the glory as the internet supplies many teaching tools and sometimes more effectively than what we can do in a classroom.

Therefore earn their respect early on.  How?

  1.  Consider learning their names, especially at the college and graduate levels. It can have great benefits when engaging your students.
  2. Respond to their questions, emails promptly
  3. Individualize lesson plans and activities
  4. Know your material
  5. Give the student something they can’t get from an internet read on the same subject, such as connecting the material to real life situations.
  6. Recognize each as an individual with special talents, and if the student is struggling, embrace their strengths and redirect lessons.
  7. Put yourself in their shoes and understand they are frightened of graduating with no job in sight.

 

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What should teachers avoid doing?

  1. Ignoring emails, messages by the students
  2. Turfing students off to other professors.  If you don’t know the answer, let the student know but offer willingness to help if the student can’t find it from another professor.
  3. The “you’re on your own” mentality. This drives students crazy and alienates them.
  4. Appear you hate your job.  Students will pick up on it and carry on the negative energy.  If you’re burned out consider a vacation or change in professions.
  5. Teaching students in 2019 the same way you taught in 2007.  Students are different and face completely different challenges than their older classmates.  They are also a visual generation and benefit more from visualizing how the material works rather than reading a paragraph.

We have the most blessed opportunity to help the next generation navigate through this world.  Let’s make sure we’re teaching to them by evolving with them.

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

She is also a Board Certified Family Physician and Assistant Professor at Touro University Nevada

 

 

 

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Interview Tips for Residency Programs

Thousands of medical students are hitting the final stretch of their medical school education and beginning to embark on one of the most critical times of their career…choosing a residency and applying for a position.

Despite one’s academic prowess, however, the interview could make or break an applicant.

Therefore, let’s get you ready for the biggest job interview of your life.

 

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Know your audience

Every residency program is different. And each one has defining elements.  So don’t make the assumption that all hospitals, doctors, staff and teaching programs are the same.

Do your research before your interview, and know inside and out what makes them tick.

  • The services they offer that other institutions don’t
  • The type of community they serve
  • Current research studies
  • What are they known to have excelled at or trail-blazed

It might even help to read up on the program director and see what he/she published.

Why?? Because the first question they ask you is:

Why did you choose our residency?

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Humanism Prep Guide For the Boards

Know the specialty you’re applying for

This may seem like a no-brainer but many students will, when nerves take over, cite  misconceptions or negative stereotypes of the field their entering.

For example one may cite during a surgical residency interview that they “Prefer cutting over figuring out what the patient has.”

Or during a family medicine interview say, “I don’t like working in the hospital,” or “I would rather be a Jack-Of-All-Trades, than specializing in one subject.”

These answers could make the interviewer cringe.  So the following examples may be better statements:

Surgery – “I enjoy working with both my mind and my hands when it comes to the vast amounts of pathology one sees as a surgeon.”

Family Medicine – “I enjoy working with the family as a unit and am excited to have the capability to treat those of all ages.”

Internal Medicine – “I’m fascinated by the complexity of cases seen in internal medicine and how the history and physical exams skills we learned in medical school can be just as accurate as the most powerful imaging study used when determining what is wrong with a patient.”

Pediatrics – “Children make me laugh and smile and to be able to do that every work day is a rarity in many professions and specialties.”

 

Remember it’s an interview

Dr. Thomas Hunt, Program Director, Valley Health System Family Medicine Residency Program, states:

Generally programs are looking for a good fit – fit to the specialty, culture, community, and mission of the program. Each program will weigh elements of your application differently, taking into account your transcripts, scores, letter of recommendation, etc. looking for candidates that best adhere to their “Ideal” resident.
That being said, the best advice I can give to students interviewing for residencies this season is to relax, be yourself, and remember that you are interviewing the program as much as they are interviewing you. Watch how the faculty, staff, and residents interact with one another and ask yourself “How do I see myself fitting into this program over the next 3 to 5 years? Is this what I am looking for? Will I be happy and thrive in this environment?”

So remember…. it’s an interview.  The reason why you are sitting before them is because they liked what they saw on paper but now they need to see you how you act, speak, and compose yourself in person.  So the same rules apply.

 

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  • Thank them before and after the interview, using a handshake when appropriate
  • Dress professionally, but comfortably so you appear comfortable and professional
  • Avoid slang and overly wordy responses
  • Keep giggles to a minimum, even if they make a funny joke
  • Be respectful
  • Be gracious to everyone with whom you come into contact with that day from the security guard to the program director to the parking attendant
  • Be humble
  • If a question seems random, and you don’t know the answer, respond with, “That’s a good question, let me give some thought into my answer before I respond,” to provide you with some pause to collect your thoughts.

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Data Gathering Prep Guide For the Boards

 

Why should they pick you?

Each program is being inundated with applications and your competition is fierce. However, don’t let that over-intimidate you.  The fact that you clutched an interview means you are already ahead of the pack.  Now you need to convince them they made the right choice in choosing to interview you.

  1.  Remark how appreciative you are in them giving you the opportunity to interview for such a highly coveted position.
  2. Highlight your strengths and how they can be of benefit to their residency
  3. If you are multilingual, don’t hold your tongue, let them know!
  4. If you did an audition rotation there and worked well with the residency team (less transitioning needed) remind them of how well you all worked together
  5. If your academics and board scores are strong it can enhance their test score average
  6. Some may straight up ask what three things make you valuable for their residency program
  7. You want to become apart of the community in which the residency resides and help continue their good work.

Many programs want to train those who will stay instate and provide much-needed care to their residents.  If you do plan on living in the state in which you train, make sure you let them know!

Will they try to trip you up?

The short answer….No.   Program directors don’t have time to waste by choosing applicants and then scaring them off or tricking them into performing badly.

However, they are going to want to get to know you.  Residents and their attendings are committed to working with each other anywhere from 3-5 years and your future boss wants to know you can make the cut and work well with others.  Don’t be afraid to show some personality but remember to be brief and continue to allow them control of the interview.

So what are some sample questions?

You might be asked any of the following:

  • Why did you choose our residency?
  • What made you choose this specialty?
  • How would you define our specialty?
  • What do you like about our institution?
  • What do you dislike about our program?
  • What sub-specialty are you interested in?
  • Where do you want to live once you graduate?
  • Do you work well with others?
  • Give me an example of when you had a conflict with a coworker and how did it get resolved.
  • What are your strengths?
  • What are your weaknesses?
  • Tell me about your research.
  • Tell me about your volunteer work.
  • Tell me about your community service.
  • Have you had any leadership roles?
  • Briefly touch upon some of your academic challenges.
  • What do you do for fun?
  • What are your hobbies?
  • How do you relieve stress?
  • Do you have family and friends who support your career choice?
  • Do you read books, and what book are you currently reading?
  • Describe a challenging patient case you’ve come across.
  • How would you approach a colleague who is abusing narcotics?
  • Where do you see yourself in 5-10 years?
  • Do you have any questions for me?

For the final question, refrain from asking the interviewer questions that are easily answered on their website or catalog.  Use the opportunity to show off your interests whether it’s regarding what research, community partnership, or teaching opportunities exist.  You can also ask them what they like about the program, why they chose to teach there, and what they would like to see in terms of evolution and progress.

After the interview

You will thank them and shake their hand but when you return home send a thank you note for their time.  Don’t stress over how your interview went.  Most likely you performed better than you thought.  Moreover expect your skills to improve with each interview.  Some suggest to leave your favorite picks to the end until you gained more practice, however, some may argue to not allow the interviewer to get “applicant fatigue” such that by the time they meet you they have made their choice.

Practice with classmates or faculty if you need and remember to prepare.

Finally, realize that you have interacted with hundreds if not thousands of individuals in your lifetime whether they were students, patients or faculty and are very skilled at what you do.  If not you wouldn’t be about to graduate medical school.  You got this!! Crush it!

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

 

 

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How College Students Can Cut Their Debt

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Student debt has been rising and the average undergraduate doesn’t feel confident they will pay off their loans before middle age.

Lots of factors contribute to the increased debt a student faces. Some of these include:

  • Higher tuition costs
  • Increased time requirements to obtain a degree (5 year program vs 4 year)
  • Fewer students work while taking classes
  • More competition after graduation
  • Higher cost of living precludes early repayment of loans

And it is projected to rise.  The Congressional Budget Office each year projects the total amount of new federal student loans the office believes they will issue with this year projected to be nearly $1.5 trillion.

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Andrew Coates, candidate for University Regent in Southern Nevada, states, “One way that colleges can help students keep their debt under control is by locking-in tuition rates.  This means that tuition will not be increased while a student pursues their degree.  By locking-in tuition, students will know exactly how much they will pay each year in college, which will help them budget accordingly.”

 

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Andrew Coates, Candidate for University Regent, Southern Nevada

 

So how can students curb their debt?

Choose an affordable college

According to US News data, the average cost of tuition and fees for the 2018–2019 school year was $35,676 at private colleges, $9,716 for state residents at public colleges and $21,629 for out-of-state students at state school, with many universities easily exceeding these numbers.  So students may want to consider getting early credits completed at community colleges and then finishing their degree at a university.  Additionally, many will need to decide if its worth picking an out-of-state college for a degree that provides the same job market edge as an in-state school.

 

Research available loans, grants and scholarships

Many students don’t apply for grants, loans and scholarships because of time constraints, misconceptions such as they don’t fit a demographic, or  “will be credit history required?”, and lack of optimism that they will even qualify.

Mark Kantrowitz, publisher and vice president of saveforcollege.com states, “More than 2 million students did not get a Federal Pell Grant even though they were eligible because they did not file the FAFSA.”  FAFSA (link attached) is a free application for federal student aid assisting students who want to apply for a loan, grant or work study.

Scholarships are ideal in that they do not need to be paid back. Many can be found at scholarships.com.

Learn to budget

Many students get a culture shock living on their own when they spend as if Mom or Dad is still footing the bill.  If eating out nightly, shopping online, or using excess data does not fit into the amount your trying to live on each month, budget expenses early on and stick to it.

Avoid the credit card trap

When we try to build our credit as a young adult, we may apply for a credit card that advertises to college students with no monthly fee and “rewards.” However, the interest rates can be up to 25%.  If you do use the credit card don’t borrow more than you can pay  off each month, always shooting for a zero balance.

 

Keep your living costs down

Rent, transportation, utilities, meals, entertainment, internet and phone service, add up and can be more costly than tuition.  Share expenses with roommates or family members to lessen your loan debt.

Cook and prepare meals for the coming days, use school wifi, carpool to class, purchase less beer, and use the university gym to save money.

But most importantly, don’t stress about the debt.  Your efforts should be concentrated on your schooling and getting a degree is one of the best ways to combat your debt later in life.

 

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

She is also a Board Certified Family Physician and Assistant Professor at Touro University Nevada

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The Science of Swearing

Having gotten in trouble my whole life for doing so, I thought it was about time I investigated what is “swearing”, why it comes so fluently and why we frequently choose to do it. So lets break down the science of swearing…..

What is the definition of a curse word?

Most dictionaries define a curse word as a “profane or obscene word.”  But I disagree with this definition.  “Profane” comes from the latin root “profanus”, or “unholy”, and Oxford Dictionary defines “profane” as not relating to that which is sacred or religious; secular, (of a person or their behaviour) not respectful of religious practice.  

But many of us who use these words when you say “I just stepped in dog $%&t” aren’t referring to religion in any way, shape or form.

“Obscene”, when defined by multiple dictionaries, alludes to terms of a sexual nature.  Again, complaining that you just stepped in dog $%&t has nothing to do with sex.

So I define a swear/curse word as one that society deems to be off-color and not appropriate in public and professional settings….a word that has plenty of other socially acceptable alternatives used during anger, excitement, or awe.

When was the first curse word spoken?

According to historians, the first curse words originated in the 15th century.  I’m sure horses were just as messy as our dogs.  But as you can see by my definition, curse words must have had their origin in caveman days as humans developed language.  Rocks were dropped, people slipped and fell, and some burned themselves on early fire so I seriously doubt that only grammatically acceptable words and phrases were used in times of accidents.

Where did specific curse words originate?

Although a good old-fashioned four letter word seems as American as they come, most originate from foreign sources.

The “S” Word

According to Business Insider, the noun nods to Old English scitte, meaning “purging, diarrhea.” And just the basic form of excrement stems from Old English scytel. The action, however, has a much more widespread history — Dutch schijten and German scheissen. The Proto-Indo-European base skie conveys the idea of separation, in this case, from the body.

The “F” Word.

 According to the Huffington Post, the f-word is of Germanic origin, related to Dutch, German, and Swedish words for “to strike” and “to move back and forth.” It first appears, though, only in the 16th century, in a manuscript of the Latin orator Cicero. An anonymous monk was reading through the monastery copy of De Officiis (a guide to moral conduct) when he felt compelled to express his anger at his abbot. 

“Ass”

Comes from the word “arse” and used as early as the 11th century when referring to an animal’s anatomy, and then later to humans.

The “B” Word

Having Old English and Germanic roots, the “B” word represented a female dog.  By the 1400’s, however, it became a “term of contempt to women,” according to Business Insider.

 

So why do we curse?

There are various theories as to why people would choose a word that may offend others.  Here’s mine:

  1.   The words are easy to say.  Four letter words seem to be the most popular and can be spewed out with ease when in pain or in anger.
  2. The words inspire an emotion.  When we communicate we need a reaction to what we say, and curse words seem to elicit some of the strongest of reactions, hence reinforcing our belief that we are effectively communicating.
  3. They’re weapons.  When we get mad at someone and want to avoid a physical altercation, we weaponize our words instead, inflicting as much verbal hurt and pain as possible. One rarely finds themselves in jail after launching a full foul word offensive.
  4. They allow us to rebel. If curse words are not allowed in a school, work or professional setting then our use demonstrates our autonomy.
  5. They convey meaning that other words cannot.  The F word, for example, is one of the most notorious and ubiquitous, with movies, books, and speakers having validated its use so many times as a noun, adjective, or verb, that it has its own character and conveys a meaning, no matter how it’s used, that society easily recognizes. In fact, it’s so notorious that the F word is recognized by those who don’t even speak English.

 

What are “fake” curse words?

“Fake” curse words are terms we use to convey a curse without acutally swearing.  Commonly used alteratives to swearing include:

  • Flip
  • Flipp’n
  • Frick
  • Dang
  • Heck
  • Witch
  • Shut the Front Door
  • Son of a Motherless Goat
  • Son of a gun
  • Dagnabbit
  • Beeswax
  • Holy shitake mushroom
  • Wuss
  • Pluck it
  • Yuk fou
  • Fire truck
  • Donald Duck

 

Is cursing/swearing ever considered “good”?

In 2017, a study from Stephens et al, from Keele University in the UK, found swearing to increase strength and power performance when working out.

Previously, in 2009, the same researchers found men who were allowed to swear while immersing their hand in cold water could maintain it twice as long as those who had to keep their language clean.

So if we perform better while cursing, will it ever become acceptable to curse?

Society seems to already accept many curse words, even on prime time television, a barometer we use to determine if a word is OK to say out in public.  However once we take a four letter word and “legalize it”, people will gravitate towards words that aren’t acceptable because of the aforementioned reasons.  We want to be rebellious and demonstrate our feelings in times of pain and anger.

So for those of you who find this unacceptable, I really couldn’t give a flipp’n cluck.…..

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

She is also a Board Certified Family Physician and Assistant Professor at Touro University Nevada