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Is Coronavirus Killing Your Sex Life?

As Americans grapple with community lockdowns amid the coronavirus epidemic, those who are single, and not single, find COVID-19 to be devastatingly cramping their style.

In some cities, bars, restaurants, and movie theaters are shuttered, so options for a first date become slim.

Clubs and gyms are closed, impeding the casual run in or bump into to someone new.

And salons for hair and nails may be closed, being “non essential”, hence at home beauty regimens need to tackle overgrown nails and roots, resulting in a “hibernation” during the lockdown if one’s unsuccessful.

And for those using dating sites for strictly hook-ups, “social distancing” can be a challenge in any bedroom.

Married people don’t have it that much easier…..spending 24 hours a day at home together rarely makes the heart grow fonder…..

So America’s sex life may be locking down faster than stores shuttering.

But there are options……lot’s of them. Let’s look at these…

Virtual “Sex”

Assuming you have a secure server, many conversations and expressions of desire can be conveyed online. Keep in mind apps like “Zoom” do not imply image enhancement.

 

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Bring Back Romance

Couples tend to think this is a given and once it slips away, is very difficult to get back. Likewise those on the single scene believe initial flirtation will brew the romance automatically.  Wrong.

Use the lockdown as a time to be creative.  So consider wooing your partner by…

  • Making them laugh
  • Share your feelings
  • Rewrite a song with lyrics about them (and yep sing it to them)
  • Poetry – even if its funny
  • Sending them virtual gifts
  • Doing something special
  • Pampering them
  • Being playful, creative with foreplay
  • Try something new in the bedroom

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Make Friends

Most long lasting relationships start with a solid foundation of friendship.  Making friends can be at times difficult on the dating scene, as intentions could be easily misconstrued.  So while we are in a period of “social distancing”, your “getting to know someone better” will be just that….. allowing a friendship to blossom.

Get In Shape and Eat Right

Most of us could use an opportunity to improve our diet and our shape, so use this time to increase your exercise and plan better meals.  Beauty on the outside requires health from within.

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Hone In On Your Skills

No one is perfect when it comes to seduction or skill, so use this time to brush up on long overdue learning and refreshers.  Myself….I could sure learn how to dance……

Stay safe and healthy out there!

 

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How to Show Love (Without Being Uncomfortable or Awkward)

Valentine’s Day is here again, and expectations are high when it comes to displays of affection.  But for many us, our attempts at being romantic feel awkward and fake.  “I Love You So Much” may not breeze out of our mouths naturally and a poorly executed show of emotion can be worse than no show at all.

So let’s look at some creative ways to show affection that can make a lasting impression….

Don’t use the word “love” if you can’t

Many people will expect the word to be used right out the gate when a relationship hits the “love” level.  Even if you are comfortable with reaching this level, you may have a difficult time saying the word love.

So don’t. Tell them you want to tell them that you “love” them but the 4 letter word doesn’t even begin to describe it.

“I want to tell you ‘I love you’ but it doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel about you…..”

You can also reach for other vocabulary that may include:

  • devoted
  • enchanted
  • infatuated
  • cherish
  • worship

that may be easier to say….

Also telling someone that you are in love with them flows a little smoother than I love you, taking the directness out of the equation.

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A picture is worth 1000 words

Don’t worry if you are inept at painting, sketching or doodling.  Fortunately your camera phone can make amazing art….

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And if you’re light on creativity, the internet offers tons of content that you can personalize and give to your betrothed.

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Write a small poem (or borrow one)

Poetry helps take the pressure off anything, except for those who can’t write it. So don’t try to be a Whitman, Frost or Dickenson…be you….and make it simple and sweet!

My world was lonely, cold and dark

until you brought it light

I love you more than words can say

you make my heart beam bright……

 

ugh that’s mushy huh….let’s try another…..

 

Roses are Red

Violets are Blue

I can’t write poetry

But I do love you

 

ok, so if poetry isn’t your thing, we have one more option….

How to Give the Perfect First Kiss

Gifts

Tokens of love do not have to be big or expensive (if you found the right partner).  So any of the following can go along way….

  • a bottle of wine (with their name on the label)
  • a playlist of their favorite songs
  • a song dedication to them over the radio
  • a stuffed toy
  • a book
  • a gift certificate
  • a funny knickknack/ desk calendar
  • puppy

No matter what you do, honesty is the best policy.  Not telling someone you love them because you are afraid can be tragic if you both are meant to be. So sometimes explaining your timidness and how you want to express your feelings and can’t may be all they need to hear.

Good luck and Happy Valentine’s Day!

 

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The Twenties: Predictions for the Next Decade

 

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Welcome to the 2020’s!!  Whereas the 1920’s were roaring with music, fashion, cars, speak-easy’s, and prohibition, the 2020’s will be no less dramatic.  Expect a high speed roller coaster with exponential changes across the board in all industries, jobs, housing, schooling, technology and relationships. Whether we like it or not, this is where I believe we’re heading……

  1.  Education – most schools will be online, similar to Ready Player One in which a student logs in from home and enters a “virtual classroom” each morning. Afternoons will be designated for sports, exercise and team projects.
  2. Teacher glut – As schools move more towards online, one teacher can teach to multiple virtual classrooms at the same time.  Chat rooms will be staffed by educators who will answer student’s questions individually.  But teacher to student ratio can be widened, allowing school districts to hire less staff.
  3. Half of all US employees will be working from home.
  4. Commercial real estate glut – as more businesses use online platforms, and employees work from home, less office space will be needed, trimming bottom lines for corporations who don’t want to spend extra for rent, cleaning, utilities and security.
  5. Recession will begin mid-decade
  6. Trump will be reelected in 2020 but Pence will fail to win the Presidency in 2024 resulting in the White House turning Democrat mid decade.
  7. A female President or Vice President will elected
  8. Men’s and Women’s restrooms will be renamed as “Restrooms” allowing any gender to use the facilities
  9. Medicine will become socialized as a Democratic executive branch will implement a public option or buy-in to Medicare/Medicaid, with tight rules to curb healthcare spending.
  10. Telemedicine will be your primary care provider with allowances to see a doctor in person if certain criteria are met.
  11. Drones will be delivering medicine, packages, mail to your door
  12. Anorexia and other eating disorders will rise as “intermittent fasting” becomes more popular
  13. New superbugs, viruses and fungi will be resistant to the best of our medications and non antibiotic/viral/fungal treatments will be perfected.
  14. Less than 1/4 of Generation Z’ers (those born after 2000) will choose to get married
  15. Less than 1/4 of Generation Z’ers will have a car
  16. Apartment and condo living will surpass single family residence homes as there is less upkeep and commitment during a trying economy.
  17. The 4-year college degree will be offered for free, but online and useless due to its ubiquity
  18. Virtual TV show watching, where you can  engage within the scene, will surpass current streaming of shows in popularity
  19. Currency will be obsolete as cards and finger prints will be used for money exchange
  20. Kiosks will replace most salespeople in retail industry
  21. A younger “teen” porn industry will arise as kids outsmart parental controls and demand footage devoid of middle-aged actors but casting those in their young twenties….with companies marketing directly to young adults.
  22. Some seniors may live to 125-130 years old
  23. Marijuana use will become epidemic with people becoming tolerant to common strains resulting in needing more potent leaves.
  24. Vegetarian and Vegan diets will surpass meat and potato saturated meals
  25. “Farting rooms” will be created in buildings to allow those who are eating more vegetables to release their gas.
  26. Smart toilets and do it yourself testing will be in every household
  27. The Supreme Court will weigh in on mandatory vaccines
  28. Baby Yoda will have a Star Wars Movie Series
  29. Radio will be stronger than ever as people want to hear real opinions
  30. TV News programs will begin to fall as demand for non-opinionated factual news rises
  31. The Dallas Cowboys will make it to the Superbowl at least once; the Kansas City Chiefs…multiple times.

I know some of these sound crazy but this is where society is heading.  The 2020’s will be fast paced, and blow right by you, so hold on to your hats….which by the way will also be making a comeback.

 

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Valentine’s Day: The Least Liked Holiday of the Year

Valentine’s Day is one of the biggest holidays of the year, with consumers spending more than $20.7 billion a year in the US buying cards, chocolates, flowers, and teddy bears.  But what no one admits to is it is one of the most anxiety producing and miserable holidays of the year.

If you’re single….

When you’re single the last thing you need to be reminded of is just that….you’re single.  Valentine’s Day inundates us with the “normalcy” of being in a relationship such that anyone who’s single feels there’s something wrong with them.  Single people feel forced to shut off the TV, avoid shopping, avoid others and remain indoors for the week surrounding Feb. 14th.

If you’re married….

If you’re married, and have been so for some time, Valentine’s Day reminds you of how much you are lacking in sex and romance.  But worse yet, you are now compelled to do something for Valentine’s Day.  No credit for spontaneity.  No credit for being romantic, since the whole world seems to be celebrating Valentines.  And… it’s all pain, no gain.  If you mess up, and your gift or celebration is not very romantic, you’re in the dog house.  And if you forget about the holiday all together…Whoa Nelly…..

The candy….

When one thinks of candy they think of chocolate, lollipops, vibrant colors…..Valentine’s heart candy is the worst candy out there.  They’re pale, hard, practically crack your teeth, not very tasty and force you to read them before you eat.

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Be Mine?  Be my Valentine?

Don’t give me anymore work to do. You could be pretty high maintenance.  And what if I’m not ready to commit?

Your gift better measure up….

Valentine’s Day gifts are made to be publicized.  And even if you gave your sweetheart the gift in private, it will be posted on social media or broadcast at work the next day.  In fact, not sending the gift to their work could be a major faux pas.

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So how do we make this holiday more tolerable?

If you’re single….

If you’re single, use this holiday to celebrate the friendships you have.  Make it a singles night out and celebrate your freedom.  Or make a friend feel special by sending a “friend” valentine.  These could include:

  • a bottle of wine
  • a stuffed toy (with no heart attached)
  • a book
  • a gift certificate
  • a funny poem/desk calendar

If you’re married…..

Since the gift of spontaneity has already been hijacked by this holiday, do something creative and unpredictable.  Candlelight dinner, a poem, luxury bath, weekend trip, something sappy…..but do it right and you’ll get bonus points.

Don’t spend a lot

Here’s the silver lining. Most Valentine’s Day gifts/gestures do not have to cost a lot.  Valentine’s Day is about the heart and showing one how much you care.  So a note, poem, song, personalized song list, or even a cute little doodle can go along way.

ARTERIES ARE RED
VENULES ARE BLUE
MY GONORRHEA HAS CLEARED UP
HOW ABOUT YOU?

 

What to buy a man?

We make the mistake of thinking men want what we want. Let’s take cologne for that matter….men don’t want to smell like perfume or “parfume”y….they like smelling like men.  Forcing them to use toilet water is not cool.

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Another common gift given to men is a shaving set.  Does the average man like shaving, let alone every day? Top that off with wasting an opportunity for them to get a cool gift with one that includes shaving products???  Cruel, just cruel.

For men, many prefer steak for dinner, time alone in their man cave, or sex.  I think that’s about it.  Pretty easy.

 

So hope this helps you get through Valentine’s Day anxiety free and worry free.

And remember…. its only one day…just one day…. and will all be over Feb. 15th.

 

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Football Fans May Be More Successful Lovers

For those of us who are football enthusiasts, we may be at an advantage when it comes to relationships.  Makes sense….when things go sour with our partner we turn to football.  When we get sidelined we wait for a signal to get back on the field.  And we instinctively “suit up” before each encounter to protect us from the blows we may incur.  So the question arises, do football fans fare better in relationships?

 

We know the field

Before any play, we need to position ourselves correctly on the field.  Being too close to the “end zone” when you’re supposed to be yards away can give you a severe penalty.

So we start at the line of scrimmage and respect the “neutral zone.”

 

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An infraction of this space could again inflict a costly penalty.  There’s a time and a place when beginning a play and entering this zone is allowed.

 

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True our goal is to get to the end zone but it will take some strategy, finesse, and opportunity.  Some good drives will get you a long way, and patience and persistence is key.

 

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We study our competition

Before any play we size up our competition.  Some may block your advance but most you can overcome.  As long as you know your routes and can keep other players at bay, you have a chance of advancing.

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How do we fumble?

Holding a ball loosely and carelessly could cause it to easily fall into another player’s hands.

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But if you hold it too tight it may squeeze out the first opportunity it gets.  A proper cradling, warmth, and protection may be the right recipe.

 

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We need to rely on others during a fumble

Losing the ball is devastating and someone else can pick it up and run with it.  It takes your buddies to help you regain possession so you can start over.

 

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Treat your partner right and don’t lose them to begin with.

 

We are always prepared for an interception

The field is fluid and players are out there watching, waiting to grab your ball and take advantage of the yardage you acquired.

 

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Always be mindful of your position and don’t take your possession for granted.

We adapt when we’re in the red zone

Although the red zone is not officially marked on the field, we understand it to be the 20 yards closest to the end zone, or time during a relationship where you can either advance to your goal or fail miserably, losing all the time and work you put into the relationship.  Being too aggressive may cause a fumble, interception or even injury.  Being too chill could prevent you from ever making a touchdown.

So us football folk know how to stop, huddle, and plan,  hopefully resulting in the ball sailing into the end zone without a hitch.

 

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So if you’re in the dating scene and find yourself getting encroached, needing to scramble, or facing a blitz, watch some football and learn how to treat your date right.  It might get you a whole new set of fresh downs…….

 

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