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Is Your Teen in Trouble? Your Guide to Their Code Words and Phrases

This generation of teens communicates differently from any others as smartphone technology has outpaced the normal evolution of day-and-age vernacular. As a result, adolescents use short phrases, hashtags, abbreviations and emojis to convey their thoughts while parents and society scramble to catch up.

What Are They Saying? Your Guide to Teen Slang

However, within these bite-size “codes” or phrases could be volumes of meaning, some delineating at risk behavior, some foreboding suicide. 

While many parents are on the lookout for terms used such as “depressed”, “sad”, “wasting my life”, and “I’m a nobody”, Daily Mail reports Tik Tok users have been using cryptic phrases, such as those below, as “cries for help”. These include:

  • I had pasta tonight
  • I want to tell my mom my favorite pasta recipe
  • I’m living in Spain right now but the “s” is silent
  • My shampoo and conditioner are almost empty
  • I finished my shampoo and conditioner at the same time
Reaching out: TikTok users who are in desperate need of support have been posting variations of the codes in their captions and hashtags

The pandemic, and isolation from which, has left many adolescents feeling alone, sad, and despondent about the future. Many teens, as a result, will isolate further and not reach out to others. However, some might, as a last resort, look to social media for acceptance and love.

Some may use hashtags such as:

  • #mentalhealth
  • #nofuture
  • #sadness
  • #sad
  • #badday
  • #lifesucks
  • #worthless
  • #sadeits
  • #love
  • #alone
  • #broken
  • #remorse
  • #atmyend
  • #finished
  • #mood
  • #breakdown

Although some of these terms such as “love” appear harmless, they may indicate that the child may need help from a counselor, physician, or National Suicide Prevention Hotline.

Breaking the code

Generation Y’s (Millennials) and Z’s (those born after 1995) have learned to be concise, descriptive, and to the point as technology and social media encourage less characters/keys being used to get one’s point across.

Teens and young adults, therefore, may use codes that often come from the letters that correspond to the key pad on a phone. 

So here’s a guide to some of the unfamiliar terminology the young ‘uns are using:

Sex/Love

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  • NIFOC – nude in front of computer
  • CU46 – see you for sex
  • 8 – “ate” used in discussions on oral sex
  • 831 – I love you – “eight letters, three words, one you/meaning”
  • 143 – I love you (denotes letters on keypads, or #’s of letters in each word (love has 4 letters)
  • 2N8, 2NTE – tonight
  • 4AO – four adults only
  • 2B@ – to be at
  • 4EAE – for ever and ever
  • 53X – sex
  • 775 – kiss me
  • ?^ – hook up?
  • BAE – before anyone else
  • IWSN – I want sex now
  • ITX – intense text sex
  • NP4NP – naked pic for naked pic
  • 1174 – strip club

Unhappy/Angry

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  • < 3 – broken heart or heart
  • 182 – I hate you (1 stands for “I”, 8 stands for “hate”, 2 stands for “you”)
  • 2G2BT – Too good to be true
  • 2M2H – Too much to handle
  • Blarg, Blargh – similar to “darn” but deeper
  • Butthurt – receiving a personal insult
  • Salty – being bitter about something or someone
  • Watered – feeling sad, hurt
  • Wrecked – messed up
  • 4FS – For F***’s Sake
  • Poof – disappearing
  • ::poof:: – I’m gone
  • Ghost – disappear
  • 555555 – sobbing, crying one’s eyes out
  • ADIH – another day in Hell
  • KMN – kill me now
  • VSF – very sad face
  • KMS – kill myself
  • KYS – kill yourself
  • 187 – homicide

Drugs/Risky Behavior

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  • 420 – marijuana
  • 420 – let’s get high
  • A/S/L/P – age/sex/location/picture
  • A3 – anytime, anyplace, anywhere
  • LMIRL – lets meet in real life
  • WYRN – what is your real name?
  • Chrismas tree – marijuana
  • Catnip – marijuana
  • Gold – drugs
  • Gummy Bears – drugs
  • Blues/Bananas – narcotics
  • Bars – benzodiazepines
  • Smarties/Skittles – Adderall/Ritalin
  • Ski Equipment/Yayo– cocaine
  • Cola – cocaine
  • Candy/Chocolate Chips/Sweets/Smarties/E – ecstasy
  • Crystal Skull/Wizard – synthetic marijuana
  • Hazel – heroin
  • Gat – gun/firearm
  • Lit – getting high/drunk
  • Smash(ed) – getting drunk, stoned, or having sex

Parents nearby

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  • 9 – parent is watching
  • 99 – parent is not watching anymore
  • P911 – parent alert (parent 911)
  • PAL – parents are listening
  • PAW – parents are watching
  • POS – parents over shoulder
  • AITR – adult in the room
  • CD9 – code 9 – parents in the room
  • KPC – keep parents clueless
  • RU/18 – are you over 18

And the above is just a small sample of some of the terms used these days.  This list continues to grow by the day so parents need to always be aware.  Kids want to KPC and avoid POS so be ready for the next group of codes being created as we speak……

Great Gift!!

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

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How I Stopped a Creep on Instagram

After countless messages on Instagram from random people asking me how I am and if I want to be a “sugar baby”, I decided to investigate and take matters into my hands. Fortunately the whole experience was over in a matter of minutes.

It started with this instagram message I received:

Now I’ve received many of these messages before but none with financial incentives. So I figured I needed to get more details on the job description…..

A “sugar baby” is one who accepts cash or gifts in exchange for sexual favors and/or companionship. True I was nervous as I didn’t want to hear a long list of sexual acts, but I was curious to see if this was a “bot” or a human.

He responds…..

So he was vague, and I as a journalist was not going to take that as his final answer so I, of course, probed.

He within a minute responded with..

I almost felt sorry for him and then questioned for a brief second if he was really sincere. But my initial instincts were right….

So while I was trying to form an answer such as “my friends (and husband) will surely be jealous that I have a sugar daddy”, he kept hammering out replies, one after the other……

Now it’s getting late and I want to go to sleep, so I thought I’d start having some fun…..

He became quiet for a minute…..then another minute….and then he responded with…..

And now I finish him……

And it ended. Haven’t heard from him since……Whew!!!

Now true, many women in their 80’s can be very sexy and qualified “sugar babies” and he didn’t specify he wanted sex, but if all he wanted was someone for communication and companionship, wouldn’t an octogenarian be a fascinating person to discuss life experiences with????

Next time I’m going to do what the rest of you should do and just block them when they first reach out, but it was interesting to learn that many of these are humans and not bots….and yes, I identified someone who was biased against “hairy legs” and a “urinary catheter”….

Great Gift!!

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, iHeart Radio and is a Board Certified Family Physician

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In This Century, Students and Younger Men Are Having Less Sex…Why?

A recent study in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that during the period of 2000-2018 (before the COVID pandemic), adults aged 18-24, specifically males, were reporting less sexual activity than their older counterparts.

Study authors surveyed 4291 men and 5213 women in the analysis of sexual frequency and 4372 men and 5377 women in the analysis of number of sexual partners and found 1 in 3 men aged 18 to 24 years reported no sexual activity in the past year.

Men and women of the 25-34 year-old age group also reported less activity, as did married couples.

Men who were unmarried, unemployed and having less income were more likely to have less sexual encounters.

Authors state, “Men with lower income and with part-time or no employment were more likely to be sexually inactive, as were men and women who were students.”

This study is in stark contrast to the suggestion that internet and online dating apps have increased sexual activity. Why?

Here might be some explanations:

  1. Dating can be expensive, and many may not want to pay for dinner, drinks, movie, popcorn just to be turned down at the end of the evening.
  2. Internet and movie streaming offers in home entertainment making one less likely to go outside for social stimulation.
  3. Porn has become infinitely more accessible since the turn of the century
  4. Internet and social media has transformed communication and privacy, and some may be hesitant to sleep with someone who might not be good at keeping secrets
  5. Many more women have access to birth control which could affect one’s sex drive
  6. Disappointments when someone meets for the first time in person an online love interest who might have marketed themselves as more desirable
  7. College parties, fraternities and sorority events have become more restrictive over the last few decades
  8. Men may be hesitant to approach others for fear of rejection or accusation

….and reports of super-gonorrhea couldn’t be helping either.

Study authors cite this increase in sexual inactivity could “have implications for public health”.

Great Gift!!

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, iHeart Radio and is a Board Certified Family Physician

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Sex Scenes May Be Computer Generated or Scrapped In COVID-era Movie Shooting

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Hollywood begins filming again June 12th, but not without similar social distancing restrictions many other industries face.

“Troy” 2004

Adhering to guidelines will allow filmmakers to work again, but not without the following changes:

  • Social distancing on sets
  • Plexiglass use for separating people during auditions, or done virtually
  • Personal Protective Equipment for those working on the film sets
  • Coronavirus Compliance Officers to ensure guidelines by the film industry and state officials are being met
  • CGI for “close contact” scenes, or removing some completely

Some scenes may be able to work with social distancing, such as this one with Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct.

“Basic Instinct” 1992

However for many others, CGI, or computer generated imagery, will need to be utilized. CGI has been a staple in most modern movies that show men flying, returning from decades old previous movies (as in the Star Wars series), or shooting lasers out of one’s eyes.

Actor Peter Cushing played Imperial Guard Moff Tarkin, but passed in 1994, was CGI in “Rogue One”, 2016

For sex scenes however, it could be challenging to ensure the realism that most viewers expect.

However, for those of us who have missed going to a move for months during the lockdown, if some sex scenes need to be scratched, fine by me. I’m more of an action fan myself…..

Bruce Willis running with automatic weapon in a scene from the film ‘Die Hard’, 1988. (Photo by 20th Century-Fox/Getty Images)

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, iHeart Radio and is Board Certified Family Physician

Posted in Covid-19, dating, Entertainment, news, sex

Do Masks Make People More or Less Attractive

Image above from Washington Post

Nevada casinos reopened this weekend and visitors found themselves surrounded by lights, glitz, slot machines and showgirls.

However, what was noticeably different was we couldn’t see most of their faces…they were masked.

One would think a scantily clad, bedazzled, beautiful woman would still be attractive to the eye, but social media debated whether the mask was a turn-off.

Many felt it was a barrier between two people preventing the invitingly openness provided by a smile.

Which begs the question, do we need to see one’s face to be turned on?

When flirting with someone, eye contact is essential. However the smile and facial expression is not without its importance.

Cheeks, nasal flare, lip position, teeth and tongues are many times necessary for two people to make a connection.

This is why many strip clubs do not plan on “masking” their employees.

On the other hand, masks can hide blemishes, frowns, and poor dentition. It can also hide bad breath. For some of us, a mask makes us appear more attractive than we are…

I, for example, often times have food in my teeth. With a mask, you’d never know……

With dating however, if one meets someone who may appear attractive and mysterious with a mask, they could be setting themselves up for disappointment mentally filling in the blanks prior to mask removal.

So whether a mask hurts or helps one’s attractiveness depends on whether the unknown or known is necessary to make a connection.

Fortunately for Vegas, there’s always something getting our attention.

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, iHeart Radio and Board Certified Family Physician

Posted in Covid-19, Health, news, sex

Study: Wear Mask During Sex To Prevent COVID

A study from Harvard University spells out the do’s and don’ts to sex during the COVID era.

They suggest the following:

  • Avoid kissing
  • Wear a mask during sex
  • Avoid oral-anal sex
  • Avoid urine and semen
  • Shower before and after sex
  • Clean area/setting of intercourse with alcohol wipes or soap
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The report was not designed to investigate sexual transmission of COVID but rather how to prevent transmission while engaging in sexual activity.

Study authors say, “….the relevance regarding sexual transmission remains unknown. Until this is better understood, it would be prudent to consider semen potentially infectious.”


Is Coronavirus Killing Your Sex Life?

Because social distancing cannot be used as a weapon to fight COVID transmission, experts are providing guidance for those of us who were abstinent during the lockdown and now want to get out there and…..date.

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, iHeart Radio and a Board Certified Family Physician

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How to Give a Lap Dance (Since Vegas Is Reopening Without Them)

As adult entertainment venues sluggishly reopen with social distancing guidelines, many patrons are finding the lack of services provided to be….well….limp.

Lap dances may disqualify a business trying to reopen their doors with COVID pandemic precautions.

Which leaves us significant others to pick up the slack at home.

For years we’ve escaped the need to choreograph a dance or squeeze into sexy lingerie as our partners had somewhere else to go for that. We could concentrate on our own rituals which included watching a Viggo Mortensen movie and then taking off the terry cloth robe.

But now we need to step it up, and fast!!! So how does one perform a lap dance??

Set the “Stage”

The recipient of the lap dance will need to be seated, so find a chair or bench or bed that they can sit on comfortably. Having a back to their seat will make it easier for you and they to brace themselves as you do your moves. Do not use a counter top or toilet seat.

Dim the lights to hide some but not all of you as you don’t what them imagining someone else completely. Remember you’re doing all the work so you might as well get credit for it.

Play sensual or sexy music in the background, or make a playlist of music you enjoy dancing to. I would avoid TV sitcom theme songs such as FRIENDS or Gilligan’s Island.

Stretch First

If you haven’t ever performed a lap dance before, there’s a chance you’ll be as sore the next day as a 3 hour gym workout. Stretch and hydrate first.

Perform Dance Moves

Don’t panic….. you really only need 2 moves. One that involves your hips and one that involves your arms. The chest moves no matter what you do.

If you don’t know how to dance, watch Tik Tok videos, or sway your hips and arms to the music.

If you really stink at dancing, you can blindfold your partner.

Wear Layers of Sexy Clothing

You will be performing a strip tease. No, no it will be fine. Look it takes the pressure off the need to dance.

Choose clothes that are easy to unbutton or untie. Your skinny jeans are a bad choice as you will have to sit on the ground and squirm to try to peel them off.

Have sexy underwear as the last layer and make sure they’re clean.

Role Play

If you’ve been with your partner for years or decades, it may take a very long time to get them excited, especially if you can’t dance. So you can role play or speak to them in an accent. Remember you are a sex goddess! Act like it.

Move In and Then Sit on Their Lap

This is why its called a lap dance.

Keep your stomach sucked in and your tush perched out as you approach your partner sensually. Then gently slide onto their lap, sharing some of the weight with the chair if you need. Keep swaying your hips to the music and if unsure what to do next, pretend you are on a slow motion bucking bronco.

Tease For as Long As You Can

Your partner has been conditioned to “not touch” as clubs usually don’t allow touching of the dancers. So maintain the same rules. Don’t let them touch you until they can’t take it anymore or you’re getting tired.

You see, you don’t have to be Hollywood’s version of sexy to have skills when it comes to enticing your partner. You just need creativity, a good play list, a sturdy chair, sexy outfit, a couple of moves.

Who knows, maybe they’ll never want to go back to a strip club again……

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart and is a Board Certified Family Physician

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Can COVID-Guidelined Strip Clubs Survive Without Lap Dances?

As many strip and gentlemen’s clubs still remain shuttered during the pandemic, many wonder what they will will look like once they reopen.

Social distancing guidelines are required of all venues allowed to open by their respective governor’s.

Those adult entertainment venues who have been allowed to open had to ensure 6 feet social distancing, limited customers in the establishment, frequent sanitation and “no contact” with the employees.

This means, no lap dances.

How to Give a Lap Dance (Since Vegas Is Reopening Without Them)

Many clubs have improvised allowing “virtual” experiences, and some just kept to the dancing, with employees maintaining proper distancing on stage.

The lack of lap dances may not be much of an issue for the customer as many of the clubs aim to provide a sensual atmosphere nonetheless.

And, we haven’t heard much complaints so far but then again, many don’t volunteer much of an account regarding their experience as it is.

However, revenue from tips will drastically decrease if customers don’t have the ability to…..well…..personally offer them.

And plexiglass barriers with transaction windows don’t cut it.

So will a lack of revenue generating services prevent clubs from meeting their bottom lines, or deter future employees from joining the industry?

Possibly. So lack of lap dances, although not a complete buzz kill for the adult entertainment experience, may be for the industry as a whole.

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN and iHeart Radio and is a Board Certified Family Physician

Posted in Education, Health, news, school, sex

New Title IX Rules for Campuses Begin This Summer

New Title IX regulations have been created and their implementation begins on college campuses throughout the US on August 14, 2020.

Title IX was born out of the Civil Right’s Act of 1964 which prohibited discrimination in employment based on race, color, sex, national origin, or religion.   Then the Education Amendments of 1972 prohibited discrimination based on a person’s sex by any educational institution who received federal funds.

No person in the United States shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any education program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance.

Then Title IX evolved over the next few decades including rules against sexual harassment.

By 2001, Title IX had specified the consequences of sexual harassment, creating a “hostile environment” that may be caused by a repetitive series of harassing conduct.

In 2011, Title IX through a “Dear Colleague” letter (DCL) included specific guidelines for sexual assault and violence.

In order to assist recipients, which include school districts, colleges, and universities (hereinafter “schools” or “recipients”) in meeting these obligations, this letter1 explains that the requirements of Title IX pertaining to sexual harassment also cover sexual violence, and lays out the specific Title IX requirements applicable to sexual violence.2 

In 2014 another DCL, urged universities to not racially discriminate in terms of discipline and sanctions.

….in our investigations we have found cases where African-American students were disciplined more harshly and more frequently because of their race than similarly situated white students. In short, racial discrimination in school discipline is a real problem.

In 2018, President Trump announced the formation of the Federal Commission on School Safety and rescinded parts of previous DCL’s with plans of providing new guidelines.  These were released this week.

The regulations are summarized here.

In these, issues of harassment definitions, reporting and due process are outlined.

Updates in the “Final Rule” include:

  • Harassment includes sexual assault, dating violence, domestic assault, and stalking as well as unwelcome conduct that is “so severe, pervasive and objectively offensive” as to deny a person equal educational access.
  • School must take action on those grievances that occurred during an education program or activity provided by the school.  But the scope of the school’s jurisdiction will continue to be reviewed as it pertains to a building owned or controlled by a student organization (i.e. fraternity house.)
  • Schools must continue to guarantee the rights protected by the US Constitution including freedom of speech, but if an allegation does not meet the definition of “sexual harassment” the school may address the allegations as deemed appropriate through their “code of conduct.”
  • Parents and legal guardians can submit formal complaints and act on behalf of parties in Title IX matters.
  • School response to an allegation must be performed “promptly” with supportive measures provided to the victim.
  • “Burden of proof” lies with the schools and not the parties
  • “Live hearing with Cross Examination” is mandatory in post secondary school Title IX cases.  Victim and accused do not need to be in the same room, and virtual hearings can be done with audio or audiovideo footage recorded.  Affected parties can have an “advisor” present and if they cannot bring one, the school must provide one free of charge if requested.  If one chooses not to engage in the live hearing or answer certain questions, it should not be used against them in the final determination.

 

This is a developing story….

Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.

 

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Is Coronavirus Killing Your Sex Life?

As Americans grapple with community lockdowns amid the coronavirus epidemic, those who are single, and not single, find COVID-19 to be devastatingly cramping their style.

In some cities, bars, restaurants, and movie theaters are shuttered, so options for a first date become slim.

Clubs and gyms are closed, impeding the casual run in or bump into to someone new.

And salons for hair and nails may be closed, being “non essential”, hence at home beauty regimens need to tackle overgrown nails and roots, resulting in a “hibernation” during the lockdown if one’s unsuccessful.

And for those using dating sites for strictly hook-ups, “social distancing” can be a challenge in any bedroom.

Married people don’t have it that much easier…..spending 24 hours a day at home together rarely makes the heart grow fonder…..

So America’s sex life may be locking down faster than stores shuttering.

But there are options……lot’s of them. Let’s look at these…

Virtual “Sex”

Assuming you have a secure server, many conversations and expressions of desire can be conveyed online. Keep in mind apps like “Zoom” do not imply image enhancement.

 

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Bring Back Romance

Couples tend to think this is a given and once it slips away, is very difficult to get back. Likewise those on the single scene believe initial flirtation will brew the romance automatically.  Wrong.

Use the lockdown as a time to be creative.  So consider wooing your partner by…

  • Making them laugh
  • Share your feelings
  • Rewrite a song with lyrics about them (and yep sing it to them)
  • Poetry – even if its funny
  • Sending them virtual gifts
  • Doing something special
  • Pampering them
  • Being playful, creative with foreplay
  • Try something new in the bedroom

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Make Friends

Most long lasting relationships start with a solid foundation of friendship.  Making friends can be at times difficult on the dating scene, as intentions could be easily misconstrued.  So while we are in a period of “social distancing”, your “getting to know someone better” will be just that….. allowing a friendship to blossom.

Get In Shape and Eat Right

Most of us could use an opportunity to improve our diet and our shape, so use this time to increase your exercise and plan better meals.  Beauty on the outside requires health from within.

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Hone In On Your Skills

No one is perfect when it comes to seduction or skill, so use this time to brush up on long overdue learning and refreshers.  Myself….I could sure learn how to dance……

Stay safe and healthy out there!

 

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Daliah Wachs, MD, FAAFP is a nationally syndicated radio personality on GCN Network, KDWN, and iHeart Radio.